Thought this was appropriate since Rush Week is just starting.
I’m always down to meet new people and chill with friends. I think people who are openly friendly and sociable are absolutely amazing… don’t get me wrong. But rush week is the biggest mindfuck ever.
And I know a lot of people I’m friends with are affiliated, so I’m obviously not trying to talk shit. I have nothing against individual people in sororities and fraternities, but as a whole I think it’s just quite stupid.
Freshmen year is clearly THE year when you get rushed the hardest. Young, naive, don’t even know what “rush” is. For me, I thought it was great that so many girls were super super friendly and always calling me out to chill… if anything, I had such a small amount of girl friends in high school I could have counted them on one hand. So in college, I figured, I could get used to having a group of girls around like this. But you know, as the year went on, anyone with a brain could eventually figure out who’s being genuinely nice to become your friend and who’s being nice to bring you into their sorority (actually some people are still confusing tbh).
Typically, they would tell me “Oh, I’m not trying to rush you” or “I don’t care if you don’t pledge”… but when I tore my achilles heel and was stuck in a wheelchair –meaning I can’t pledge– it was amazing how many “friends” lost interest in hanging out with me the way they used to. I even went out in crutches and the change in atmosphere was evident. And the following semester, when I was back to my healthy self, everyone suddenly became my best friend again.
I mean, I don’t really care that much. I actually understand it’s part of the process, and that a lot of people are actually nice and genuine (though their intentions may not be). But I don’t want to be a part of it… so I’m pretty straight-forward with girls at my school. I stopped making excuses why I can’t attend GIMs or rush events; I’d rather just tell people straight out “I don’t want to be rushed.” or “I’m not going to pledge.” If they take offense to it, then that’s just them. I just don’t want them to spend their money and time on me, when we both know it’s going to waste.
Greek life may be widespread and popular, but it’s just not for me. I’m not scared of pledging –honestly, I think I could do mad push ups and memorize shit and eat whatever and all that fun stuff– but I am scared of being tied down by one group of sisters and having to rush kids with a fake smile for the next whatever years. I’d rather just do me and make my own friends, Greek or non-Greeks, it really doesn’t matter to me. But overall, you know, I want to enjoy these few precious years before we get kicked to the curb of the Real World. Feel me?
Haaaa… now watch half the Greeks that read this won’t even talk to me anymore. LOL but whatever, if you were never my friend or if you can’t understand where I’m coming from, good riddance. Don’t let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.